Thursday, May 31, 2018

Monday, May 31

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May 31, Monday - very quiet day. Marv and Bud worked on bait shop. I ironed a little and that's about all I did do. Marv is so patient with me. I can't stand myself, but he takes everything so well that I'm ashamed of myself.




















Mom continues to do battle with her self-image. Understandable.

You might remember that May 30 was the original date for Memorial Day before it became a three-day weekend with an observed date, the last Monday in May


The old folks called it Decoration Day, and that name had been passed down since the late 1860s, a date to remember the deaths in the American Civil War.




Memorial Day in 1965 wasn't a big deal for most people. They decorated the graves of their loved ones, and paid special attention to the remembrance of fallen soldiers. Retail stores didn't have massive blowout sales, and we city kids knew that summer was right around the corner. 

For me, the big deal was that the Indianapolis 500 Mile Race was held on May 30.

The 1965 500 had a good freshman class, including Mario AndrettiAl Unser, Sr., and Gordon Johncock. A.J. Foyt, was back behind the wheel after a horrific stock car crash at the Motor Trend 500 at Riverside, California.

Rear engine cars were making inroads against the older front-engine Offenhauser roadsters, and Jim Clark of Scotland won the 500 in a rear-engine Ford Lotus. The front-engined cars were definitely living on borrowed time, as were cars fueled by gasoline. The incredible second-lap crash at the 1964 500 made a number of teams turn to methanol or methanol blends, but their performance wasn't good enough to keep up with the high-octane gasoline cars. Eventually, all Indy cars would change to methanol, thus leveling the playing field, and promoting safer racing at Indy.
Jim Clark's Lotus Ford
Meanwhile, in Kansas City, Bud and his dad worked on the bait shop, and mom did ironing.


Monday, May 28, 2018

Friday, May 28

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May 28, Friday - A new angle in treatment today. Cool again today. Took mom to Dr. Curran and back home. Bought plywood for bait shop. (Went to union hall for money. Paid me $240!! We're rich.)

May 29, Saturday - Lawrence and Gladys came up and spent the day. Lawrence and Marv built bait shop. Bud mowed the yard. Gladys and I ran errands. Everybody was tired at end of day.

May 30, Sunday - Went to Bethel Cemetery for memorial services. Very nice. I hope I am buried up there.


Mom's check from the Retail Clerks' Union is the equivalent to $1857 in 2018 dollars.

The Bait Shop. This is difficult to explain, but bear with me. Our house was situated on the northwest corner of a property owned by Saint Mary Cirese. The best I can figure is that it was large enough for at least five or six houses, but whether those houses ever existed, I don't know. I seem to remember the remains of house foundations in the property, but that may be a manufactured memory. The corner looks like this in satellite view:


Our house is at the upper left, next to Jackson Court, and everything else in this rectangle was our yard. The bottom quarter was usually planted in corn, tomatoes, green beans, pumpkins, and watermelons. Everything else I mowed with a 20 inch push mower.


At any rate, we wound up with a large early '40s Chevrolet box truck on the property. It didn't run, and we used the back part as storage - lawnmowers, garden tools, tillers, etc. It landed on the lot around 1958 - I remember climbing on the truck with the neighborhood kids. We used it as playground equipment, and found the top of the truck a suitable place to keep an eye on the entire neighborhood. It was the high ground for our games and a constant worry for my dad.

Something like this, if you will, except in a faded red:

1941 Chevy Cab-Over-Engine (COE) Truck
My dad was looking for a way to eliminate the middleman from his bait distribution network, and the only way to do that was to launch a retail venture. He didn't have the means to buy or lease a storefront, and the area pay lakes already were selling bait on their own, so dad hit upon the idea of building a bait shop on our lot.

He and my uncle Lawrence came up with the idea of using the old truck as one wall of the shop, and attaching the rest to the side. Dad and Lawrence were blind optimists, and could always make something from nothing - depression-era thinking at its Midwestern best. They built a framed wall parallel to the side of the truck, hung rafters from the area near the roof of the truck, and enclosed the front of the truck in a kind of ship's prow made from corrugated metal, painted white. Inside, he put his bait and tackle on display in an old glass-front display case he bought from Jerry Fredman's drug store up the street. Dad ran a power line from the house to run a small refrigerator to keep fresh worms, and - this is the bit that sent my mom over the roof - a night service bell. Dad figured that any fisherman worth his sinkers would want to be up before the sun, and so would we. Dad stocked most small tackle items - fishing line, hooks, leaders, sinkers, nets - along with a complete line of his carp and catfish baits.

The shop had several iterations - 11th and Spruce Baits, Sniffy Baits, dad's trademark brand; and much to my teenage mortification, Bud's Baits. Dear God. Dad painted big signs shouting our glory to the passing traffic, and later in the spring of '65 launched the store. Stay tuned for more on this delightful story.

Bethel Cemetery is our family reserve in rural Leavenworth County, Kansas. Mom was born in Jarbalo, just down the road, and the family, when it came to Kansas, thought Leavenworth County would be their last stop. That wasn't quite right, but even as her family moved to Topeka, and eventually Kansas City, Bethel Cemetery was the one constant, the gathering place in times of grief, sorrow, and remembrance. Had some laughs there, too.

We buried mom there in March of 1979. She died during the Great New Year's Blizzard of December 31 to January 2, but the cemetery was frozen solid, and her grave couldn't be excavated until March. It's always something with these people. Her mom's funeral procession got lost on the way to the cemetery, and had forty cars piled up and trying to turn around on a narrow Leavenworth side street. Barrel of freaking monkeys, I tell you. Best funeral ever. We laughed our asses off.

Friday, May 25, 2018

Tuesday, May 25

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May 25, Tuesday - Did washing, then to ______ for bra. I'm a pair again. Delivered bait and then stayed home for the evening. Talked to Marie and Patty

May 26, Wednesday - Sore from new bra. Also tired. Big storm in the middle of the night. Marv did ironing before I got up. He's so good to me. He's begun to relax a little since I've been home.

May 27, Thursday - Have been a mess today. Depressed and full of self-pity. I hate myself and everyone else. Cool today - high in the 60s.

Mom was fitted for a prosthetic bra in place of her missing left breast. The one she chose was inflatable, and had a hose that she could use to inflate by mouth, and a release valve to adjust the size if needed. She was embarrassed by it, and thought the idea absurd. She adjusted her thinking as time went by, but it added a chapter to the family humor collection later this summer.

Mom was mistaken about one detail - my dad never, ever relaxed. Ever.

The struggle with her emotions continues.


Tuesday, May 22, 2018

Saturday, May 22

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May 22, Saturday - Felt so low today. Bud went on a rock hunt and was gone all day. Feel as if my whole life is a failure.

May 23, Sunday - Went to church. went fishing this afternoon with the group but got sick and spoiled everyone's day. No more social life until these treatments are all over. Windy, but nice.

May 24, Monday - Went to take treatment, to the store, and home for TV. Sick till I took my sick pills. Such an exciting life.

Rocks. Fossils, to be more exact. Kansas City is built on fossil-rich limestone.

We're in a long stretch where mom just goes through the motions of life. The radiation treatments for her breast cancer have laid her low, and the fatigue is setting in.

There isn't much to add today

Saturday, May 19, 2018

Wednesday, May 19

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May 19, Wednesday - Went up to Leavenworth cemetery. Next time I will take some peony plants. Bud started his bowling league tonight.

May 20, Thursday - Went to town by myself this morning. Got along fine - a little tired. See Marg Benson almost every day in the Dr's office. She looks bad.

May 21, Friday - Went to store and doctor. Same old grind.

Our family plot is west of Leavenworth, Kansas on State Highway 92, not quite to Easton. Bethel Cemetery is a genealogical gold mine for the Patton Clan, including the German immigrant, Frederich Beuckemann, and his wife, Minna Beuckemann, nee Mackeson, my great-great grandparents. My folks are both there now, in a shady spot under towering oak trees that overlook a quiet valley.


More bowling. Wednesday night Men's League. School night out with the beer-drinking men of the Armco and Sheffield Steel Plants. I learned a lot about bowling from these guys, as well as a lot about a bunch of other stuff. Learned some swell new words, too. I later found out that most of my new vocabulary couldn't be used at home.


Bethel Cemetery, Leavenworth County, Kansas

Wednesday, May 16, 2018

Sunday May 16

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May 16, Sunday - Planned to go to church, but felt so bum I slept in. Went fishing with Marv in the afternoon.

May 17, Monday - Ran around all morning. Got roaster-broiler with TV Stamps. Marv and I did washing. Spent quiet evening. Rained Monday night.


May 18, Tuesday - Not much cooking today. Marv had car worked on and came home and ironed. He went fishing in the evening.



Mom fades in and out for quite a while after her mastectomy, as can be expected. Fishing. Always with the fishing.

Trading stamps. S&H Green Stamps were the gold standard, but Kroger handed out Top Value stamps. "TV." You received a certain number of stamps depending on how much you spent at the participating stores. You pasted the stamps into books, in this case, 50 to a page, and when you had amassed the required number of books, you headed off to a redemption center to exchange them for stuff. Mom picked out a countertop broiler for her collection of red and yellow stamps. 


Trading stamps had all but disappeared by the time I started working for Kroger in 1966, but they had just begun cutting their prices instead of offering premiums. (Their promotion was called "4,197 Deep-Cut Discount Prices"). They had big numbers splashed all over everything in the store.
 

Top Value Stamps Book
Later, when I was a store manager for Ed Gieseler's Volume TV in Kansas City - "Volume Makes The Difference" - one of our vendors handed out Green Stamps as a sales promotion. I got a Sunbeam hand mixer and a nice Southwestern-themed blanket, both of which I still have, and a Kitchenaid coffee mill, which has long since ground to a stop.

Sales promotions and spiffs make life interesting. When I managed the camera store for Hallmark, the distributor of Olympus cameras had a sales contest. I won two Olympus OM-1 cameras, two lenses, and a motor drive. Somewhere, there are two OM-1 bodies with my name engraved on their baseplates.

Cars needed to be worked on back in those days. Ignitions were distributor-controlled, and contact points wore out, spark plugs were expendable, and a car's running gear needed lubrication and the brakes required occasional  adjustment. We can talk about tires some other time.

Cadillacs should have come with a live-in mechanic, for what they cost to repair.






Sunday, May 13, 2018

Thursday, May 13

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May 13, Thursday - Felt miserable today - treatment 10. Asked Mary how many more - she said quite a few. I knew that. Nice weather 80°. Rain tonight.

May 14, Friday - Treatment 11. Went to store and then to take treatment. Windy. Bud went to ball game with Steve Fairhurst.

May 15, Saturday - Gladys and Lawrence came up and spent day. Lawrence and Bud mowed lawn. Bought mower from Lawrence for $20

More radiation treatments. She's not very far into the process, but I remember her feeling a little crazy in the routine, and the helplessness she felt.

Steve Fairhurst was one of my neighborhood stalwarts - the smart one. Steve had a brilliant mind, and a knack for details. In later years we joked that if we had the computing power available in 2000 when we were kids, we'd just now be getting out of jail.

Baseball was a big deal for us. This was a tragedy because we lived in Kansas City. The A's never had a winning season in Kansas City, even though toward the end, they had the nucleus of the Oakland A's' winning teams of the '70s.

From our corner of 11th and Spruce, we walked the one block to the bus stop at 12 and Jackson, took a bus to Brooklyn Avenue, and transferred south to the stadium at 22nd Street. General admission tickets were cheap, and because so few people went to the games, a GA ticket was as good as a box seat once the game started. For this night game against the Minnesota Twins, the total paid admission was just a tick over 6,000 diehard fans.

The Twins, an American League expansion team in 1961 were the former hapless Washington Senators. The A's held the Twins scoreless as the home team marched three batters across the plate - one in the fourth, and three more in the seventh:


Kansas City Municipal Stadium - probably pre-Charlie Finley

As we sat in the big, green, extremely fan-friendly behemoth that was Municipal Stadium, it looked as if Kansas City might pull one off. Nope. The Twins chalked up three runs in the eight, and two in the ninth to win 5-3. The A's record after that game was a dismal 5 and 21.

The incredible groundskeeper George Toma with Harvey, the Athletics' ball delivery rabbit
Gladys is dad's sister, Lawrence is her husband. Lawrence could fix just about anything. He brought down a power mower with a 2-cycle Clinton engine that he had rebuilt. 2-cycles, for the uninitiated, use a mix of gasoline and oil instead of straight gas. It looked a lot like this:

It was probably a Wizard, from Western Auto.


There was no recoil starter - the rope you used to start it was separate. You wound it around the starter spool on top, and gave it a good yank - it usually started. You kept the rope, with its T-handle, tied off to the mower handle, where you were certain to lose it at the worst possible time. If you were me, you invariably ran over the damned rope, shooting it and the handle across the street. To shut it off, you had to ground the spark plug until the engine died. I carried a screwdriver for this purpose. This mower was half the size you would have probably wanted for a yard our size, but poor folks have poor ways, etc.

After I got the hang of the mower, I had dad take me to the hardware store to buy a screw-eye and at least fifty feet of rope. I drilled a hole in the back of the mower deck and bolted in the screw-eye. I could now attach the rope and lower the running mower to cut the steep terraces that Northeast was famous for. A regular yard fetched $3 to $6, but a terraced yard brought almost $10. I made a lot of money that summer, burned up the Clinton motor and went out and bought another mower, and still had a ton of cash left over for my nefarious teenage plans to take over the world.

Terraced yards in Northeast - fun to mow
Google Maps Street View of houses across the street from ours.








Thursday, May 10, 2018

Monday, May 10

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May 10, Monday - Took Bud to library and found book for speech. Got money and paid bills like crazy. Took Bud to the R______. Went home and Bud worked on speech. Sinuses ok. Marie has diabetes. (Bill started to work on mom's bathroom today.)

May 13, Tuesday - Helped Marv do washing, then took treatment 8. Bud stayed home and finished working on speech. "Colossus of Rhodes". Marv went fishing and Bud went bowling. Had lovely evening - did just as I pleased. I like it.

May 14, Wednesday - Feel low today. Marv ironed and I swept through the house. Took treatment 9. Bud stuck key in John's car and it became wedged. Crisis!

I don't know where mom took me, but I obviously found my way back home.

Bill is mom's brother - he and Uncle Bob spent some time working on the Patton house at 1501 Garfield in Kansas City, Kansas. The house no longer exists. I'm told it burned to the ground in 2005. When I was born we lived at 1932 North 14th, next door to my great-grandmother, and just around the corner from the Patton house. Mom's family was tight, and a cluster like this would have suited mom just fine. All the same, we moved a couple of times before we wound up on 11th Street. When I was very small, we lived on 10th Street, right next door to Whittier Elementary School, and somehow we relocated to Fort Scott, Kansas, where my dad was from, for a couple of years. The idea of mom being that far from her family seems unlikely, and whatever the reason for that stop, I'm sure dad heard about it.
Mom and her brother John at The Patton House, KCK
I'll be switched if I know who that little kid is.
Grandma and Grandpa Patton with Uncle Bob at The Patton House

You'll see a lot of references to doing the wash. We did all our laundry with a Maytag wringer washer something like this one:


The process was labor-intensive.
  • You filled the washer with hot water, added detergent - Tide - and then the dirty clothes. You then switched on the agitator.
  • After an appropriate amount of time, you stopped the agitator, activated the wringer, and fed the clothes from the washer to a tub filled with water for the first rinse.
  • Time to drain the washer. Some had pumps for this - ours was gravity-powered. Right into the floor drain.
  • After you drained the washer, you refilled it with cold water for the second rinse. You then put the clothes back through the wringer and into the washer. 
  •  Turn on the agitator again. After the clothes have been properly rinsed, they go back through the wringer into a now-empty rinse tub, ready to be dried.
The drying process was solar and wind powered, by way of a couple hundred feet of clothesline in the back yard. A bag of clothespins was hanging on the line, and your fourteen-year-old son  dutifully, more often than not, helped you pin your clothes on the line.

You get the idea. After this ordeal, there was ironing to be done. No miracle fabrics - cotton, thank you, and cotton needs to be ironed. I learned how to iron when I was ten years old, and still prefer to do my own, although I really don't mind a few wrinkles these days.

"John" was one of the neighborhood guys that always had one too many cars, and dad never thought twice about letting them park them in our huge yard. This one was a 1950 Ford Coupe, shot up in primer gray. John had to wait for his next paycheck to license it, so it sat next to the old box truck that inhabited our side yard. (More on that vehicle later.)

1950 Ford Coupe - Not John's
As I was fascinated by all things automotive, I took a look inside, sat behind the wheel, and in a fit of temporary insanity, showed Tommy Jackson how one of my assortment of padlock keys would likely start the Ford. What could possibly go wrong?

The key slid into the lock and then promptly stuck. Tight. I couldn't so much as jiggle it. I felt the blood drain out of my face. Dad was going to be furious, and John, with his boxcar haircut and his Chesterfield cigarettes rolled into his T-shirt sleeve, would probably just kill me outright and leave my lifeless body next to the railroad tracks behind the Jackson Hole bar.

Tommy, always the hero, hightailed it for home, and I went inside and eventually told dad what had happened. In typical Marv fashion, he said nothing, but walked outside to assess the situation, came back inside and dug out the Yellow Pages to look up "Locksmiths", and made the call. The Yellow Pages, in case you're younger than forty, was a phone book of business numbers. The pages were yellow. Neat, huh?

A couple of hours later, the locksmith showed up, took out the Ford's ignition switch, removed the offending key, and gave dad the bill. $10.00 worth of expert lock-smithery. In today's money, that's about $82.

I could sense dad seething in the kitchen as he said goodbye to the locksmith and closed the back door. It was deathly quiet. And then dad walked into my room, handed me a folded piece of paper, and walked out. I open it and read this short verse:

"No more keys in locks, my lad,
for ten bucks it cost your dad."

Honest to Jesus, I think I really would have preferred a good beating, but that just wasn't my dad's style.

Monday, May 7, 2018

Friday, May 7

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May 7, Friday - Felt real good today - Went to store in morning. Delivered bait afternoon, then stopped to see Patty. She's doing fine.

May 8, Saturday - Bud got up with sinus-sick headache. Went to library first thing - then to Katz. Stopped by Gladys to give mom Mother's Day $2.00 Plan to have picnic at Jean's tomorrow.

May 9, Sunday - Had a lousy day for Mother's Day. Marv and I had a brawl - made me so upset I couldn't go to church. Ruined my whole day.

Bait deliveries and relatives in the hospital - it's our family theme.

I used to have crippling sinus infections. They felt like someone driving nails into my eye sockets. They just came and went. I got used to them.

I spent a lot of time at the library at Northeast High School - I remember that this time I was working on a speech for the Drama Club. It had to do with the Colossus of Rhodes. I'm not sure if I picked the topic or if Mrs. Womack threw me under the bus on that one. The Colossus of Rhodes? Really?

Katz Drug Stores was a midwest institution, and if you couldn't get it at Katz, you probably didn't need it. While we got our prescriptions filled at Fredman's Drug Store on the Ninth and Spruce triangle, we got nearly everything else at Katz. I bought records, cameras, film, and pretty much everything else there. They had a creepy animated black cat neon sign that used to freak me out. Not as much as the big glowing face on the U-Smile Court out on 40 Hiway, but creepy all the same.

Katz Drug Store
U-Smile
Again, I was totally and blissfully unaware of any of my folks fights. I just didn't know about most of them. Don't know why this one started, or how it went down. It must have been a rough one if it took my mom down like that.

Chances are, my dad raised a stink because mom was going out to her sister Jean's house in Independence. Jean never tried to pretend that she liked my dad - or anyone else, for that matter - and my dad had an inferiority complex where mom's family was concerned. Jean and her husband Frank built a house, stick by stick, out on Arlington Road before I-70 disconnected the north end of the street from the rest of the world. Uncle Frank, who, like my dad, was a meat-cutter of the A&P variety, did most of the work himself, and the house was a marvel of mid-century modernity - built-in televisions and appliances, rocker switches to control the lights, the steepest, narrowest, stairs I've ever seen, and a far-too-small kitchen. I'm quite sure mom saw it as a dream house, a dream that she would never see in real life.

At any rate, dad probably wanted to go fishing instead of going to Aunt Jeans.


Friday, May 4, 2018

Tuesday, May 4

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May 4, Tuesday - Went to deliver bait. Marsha came over to spend the day. Stopped by to see Mary. Took treatment. Bob and Flo came by on way home. Had a nice visit. (Mary was operated on. Everything OK. What a wonderful relief.)

May 5, Wednesday - Sonnie's birthday. So tired today. Took treatment.

May 6, Thursday - Took treatment early

Bait deliveries were another constant part of our lives. The were dozens of bait and tackle shops all over town that stocked dad's products, and he always delivered orders personally unless the shop was more than a hundred miles away. Even then, he was as likely to load up the Cadillac and hit the road with the trunk full of cases of bait. I remember trips to Trading Post, Parsons, Pittsburg, Coffeyville, and Fort Scott, all in Kansas, and at least one run each to Jefferson City and Rich Hill.

Marsha was my newest cousin, uncle Bob's step-daughter. We were pretty good buddies for quite a while. We gingerly tiptoed around our sexual tensions. I went swimming with Marsha later in this summer of '65 and got the Big Kahuna Cheeseburger of all sunburns.

You can't tell the players without a program - Sonnie is my half-sister, Bob and Mary are married, Marsha is Mary's daughter by a previous marriage, and Flo is Mary's mom. 

Tuesday, May 1, 2018

Saturday, May 1

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May 1, Saturday - Took first cobalt treatment. Real easy. Cleaned house in a.m. while Marv washed. TV no good. Went to bed early.

May 2, Sunday - Went to church alone. Marv went fishing. Bud and I had nice afternoon. Mom came over and stayed all night

May 3, Monday - Went to St. Luke's early. Patty's surgery was benign. Such a relief. Took another treatment. Was so tired, I was sick.

I don't know how to compare cancer-recovery therapies in 1965 versus today, but mom's treatments seemed to take everything out of her. It doesn't sound like she did radiation and chemo at the same time, but I'm not sure.

Mom never complained, never gave anyone the impression that life had been in any way unfair to her. She did what she did every day - she put her head down and charged forward. It wasn't always easy.

Dad usually fished at area pay lakes - lakes that were stocked with carp and catfish, and charged admittance for a day's fishing. Unless it was a genuine lunker, Dad rarely kept the fish he caught, but then again, he rarely paid to fish there. He gave the owners samples of his bait to try or give away, and they let him fish for free. One was Shur-Katch Lake near the banks of the Little Blue River near the Heart Drive-In. Another lake was near Smithville, Missouri, but it was a fair slog to get there before the freeways went in. Dad's favorite was 40 Hiway Club Lake, near 40 Hiway and Lee's Summit Road. The "Club" in the name was an indicator that black people need not come down the driveway.

Jess and Mary Moretina ran the lake, which had a grill and snack bar along with a miniature golf course. Mary made a killer cheeseburger, and you could grab a Vess soda from the chest cooler. This made it tolerable for me to go along. Bank fishing for carp is a slow, long-term activity - bait casted into the deeps for the bottom-feeders, with long waits in between any kind of activity. Dad usually had four or more level-wind bait-casting rigs lined up along the bank, each with 28-pound test line. He scoffed at spinning reels as being the tools of the amateur fisherman.

If a luckless carp sucked in the bait, it was like hooking onto a bull elephant with an outboard motor. Carp are extraordinary fighters, and it might take a half-hour or more to tire and land one once it was hooked.

40 Hiway Club Lake as it looks today
This often proved to be more boredom than even an only child can handle, and if I didn't bring the supplies along that allowed me to wax and detail the Cadillac, I could often be found at the snack bar or playing miniature golf.

I once gathered up all my nerve and asked young Patty Saunders, whom I had met bowling five or six years earlier, to go with us to the lake on a Saturday afternoon. We fished, played miniature golf, and ate cheeseburgers. She drank Grape NeHi. I drank Vess Red Cream Soda. I don't remember if this was before or after I asked her to go see "Pajama Game" with me. My adoration of Patty overpowered my brutal shyness, at least temporarily. Musicals solved everything.

For the record, tomorrow, May 2, is Patty's birthday. To this day, she reminds me that she's older than I am and that I should show her the respect she deserves. I do so willingly.